Highly Effective Behavior to be Succeed in Business

Stephen Covey, in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, describes an important essences to be succeed in business world.

What made us special as a human, is that we have "self-consciousness", ability to think about our way of thinking. That's the reason we have full authority of every single thing in this world. We are not our feeling, we are not our mood, and we are not even our own thinking. Our consciousness about these three things separated us from animal world. It makes us possible to check up our self, our paradigm about ourselves, and it will affect not only our attitude and character, but also how we picture others.

Most of the times, because we lack of "self consciousness", we limited our potency and ability to be able to build good communication and relationship with others. But the good thing is, as a human, we can check up our own paradigm and decide whether it is based on reality or just a function of condition.

One of the popular model by Pavlov is the theory of stimulus/response. It explains that we are put in a certain condition to have a certain respond by certain stimulus. We are often determined by our condition, do not have control of the influence, and admitted the power of condition itself.

The truth is, we have control of our response, we can CHOOSE to decide how things can affect ourselves. We have freedom and power to choose certain respond. Between stimulus and response, we have freedom to CHOOSE.We can choose to be Reactive or Proactive!

Reactive person is very dependable on situation and mood. Weather condition and how people treat them can greatly affect their behavior. They are moved by feeling, emotion, situation, and condition.

In other way, Proactive person is moved by VALUE. Value that has been carefully selected and considered. Hat happened around them and how people treat them will have less impact into their behavior. They can control their response from certain stimulus by value, not by emotion.

Changed need to be from inside-out. Proactive person understand the value of this statement. They focused on how to changed inside first, things that they have full control of. They don't blame others and release their responsibility, they always start from the inside, what can they changed to make things work out. They always evaluate, learn, and changed to be better person. They understand that nobody can have access to hurt them, unless they themselves give a permission. For example, if your boss didn't treat you right, you can choose to be hurt or not. If you hurt, you just lose your chances. But if you learn from that, you can choose to understand what is your boss will and it can motivate you to do things above the line.

In business world, we always faced by tons of choices. We can choose to be reactive or proactive. We can choose to blame or learn. We can choose to be controlled by condition or we can control our condition. Be wise with your choice.